Dari milis CR, Dadan.Sudrajat@sampoerna.com,

Ketahuilah OlehMU

Jika kau merasa lelah dan tak berdaya dari usaha yang sepertinya sia-sia..
Allah SWT tahu betapa keras engkau sudah berusaha.

Ketika kau sudah menangis sekian lama dan hatimu masih terasa pedih...
Allah SWT sudah menghitung airmatamu.

Jika kau pikir bahwa hidupmu sedang menunggu sesuatu dan waktu serasa berlalu begitu saja...
Allah SWT sedang menunggu bersama denganmu.

Ketika kau merasa sendirian dan teman-temanmu terlalu sibuk untuk menelepon...
Allah SWT selalu berada disampingmu.

Ketika kau pikir bahwa kau sudah mencoba segalanya dan tidak tahu hendak berbuat apa lagi...
Allah SWT punya jawabannya.

Ketika segala sesuatu menjadi tidak masuk akal dan kau merasa tertekan...

Allah SWT dapat menenangkanmu.

Jika tiba-tiba kau dapat melihat jejak-jejak harapan...
Allah SWT sedang berbisik kepadamu.

Ketika segala sesuatu berjalan lancar dan kau merasa ingin mengucap syukur...
Allah SWT telah memberkahimu.

Ketika sesuatu yang indah terjadi dan kau dipenuhi ketakjuban.. .
Allah SWT telah tersenyum padamu.

Ketika kau memiliki tujuan untuk dipenuhi dan mimpi untuk digenapi...
Allah SWT sudah membuka matamu dan memanggilmu dengan namamu.

Ingat bahwa dimanapun kau atau kemanapun kau menghadap...
Allah SWT TAHU .......

Dari Abdullah bin 'Amr r.a., Rasulullah s.a.w. bersabda, Sampaikanlah pesanku biarpun satu ayat...

a Love story

Once upon a time, there was an island where all the feelings lived;
Happiness, Sadness, Knowledge, and all the others, including Love.
One day It was announced to the feelings that the island would sink,
so all repaired Their boats and left.

Love wanted to persevere until the last possible moment. When the island was almost sinking, Love decided to ask for help. Richness was passing by Love in a grand boat. Love said "Richness, can you take me with you?"
Richness answered, "No, I can't. There is a lot of silver in my boat. There is no place here for you."

Love decided to ask Vanity who was also passing by in a beautiful vessel. "Vanity, please help me!" "I can't help you Love. You are all wet and Might damage my boat," Vanity answered.

Sadness was close by so Love asked for help, "Sadness, let me go with you."
"Oh....Love, I am so sad that I need to be by myself."

Happiness passed by Love too, but she was so happy that she did not even hear when Love called her!

Suddenly there was a voice, "Come Love, I will take you." It was an elder. Love felt so blessed and overjoyed that he even forgot to ask the elder his name. When they arrived at dry land, the elder went his own way.

Love realizing how much he owed the elder, asked Knowledge, another elder. "Who helped me?" "It was Time," Knowledge answered. "Time?" asked Love. "But why did Time help me?" Knowledge smiled with deep wisdom and answered, "Because, only Time is capable of understanding how great Love is."

-- Author Unknown --

"Feelings are much like waves. We can't stop them from coming, but we can choose which one to surf."
(Jonatan Mårtensson)

3 Ways to Handle Anger
(David Romanelli)

1. to remember that anger and love are two sides of the same coin

2. to think that before lashing out, its better to look within

If I had a dime for half the things I did that didn't make no sense at all
I'd be living a little higher on the hog
If only I'd have known
That later on down the road
I'd look back and not like what I see
I'd have changed a lot of things
Startin' with me
("Startin' with Me," Jake Owen)

3. to practice feeling without reaction
Zen proverb reads: "Nothing on earth can overcome an absolutely nonresistant person."

Words of Wisdom

A nice posting from a sister in milis CR :)

1. You can't change the past, but you can ruin the present by worrying over the future.

2. God always gives His best to those who leave the choice with Him.

3. All people smile in the same language.

4. A hug is a great gift ..One size fits all. It can be given for any occasion and it's easy to exchange.

5. Everyone needs to be loved...especially when they do not deserve it.

6. The real measure of a man's wealth is what he has invested in eternity.

7. Laughter is God's sunshine.

8. Everyone has beauty but not everyone sees it.

9. It's important for parents to live the same things they teach.

10. Thank God for what you have, TRUST GOD for what you need.

11. If you fill your heart with regrets of yesterday and the worries of tomorrow, you have no today to be thankful for.

12. Happy memories never wear out....re-live them as often as you want.

13. Home is the place where we grumble the most, but are often treated the best.

14. The choice you make today will usually affect tomorrow.

15. Take time to laugh, for it is the music of the soul.

16. If anyone speaks badly of you, live so none will believe it.

17. Patience is the ability to idle your motor when you feel like stripping your gears.

18. Love is strengthened by working through conflicts together.

19. The best thing parents can do for their children is to love each other.

20. Harsh words break no bones but they do break hearts.

21. To get out of a difficulty, one usually must go through it.

22. We take for granted the things that we should be giving thanks for.

23. Love is the only thing that can be divided without being diminished.

24. Happiness is enhanced by others but does not depend upon others.

25. You are richer today if you have laughed, given or forgiven.

26. For every minute you are angry with someone, you lose 60 seconds of happiness that you can never get back.

27. Do what you can, for who you can, with what you have, and where you are.

28. The best gifts to give: To your friend - loyalty, To your enemy -forgiveness, To your boss - service, To a child - a good example, To your parents - gratitude and devotion, To your mate - love and faithfulness, To all men and women - love, To God - your life.

(posted by Anna Sri Handayani, milis CR, Wed July 11, 2007)

A such wonderful poem sent by a friend in milis,
about some lessons in life.
Perhaps, it can be true for some,
maybe also can be wrong for some others.

LIFE LESSON

I've learned....
That the best classroom in the world is at the feet of
an elderly person.

I've learned....
That when you're in love, it shows.

I've learned....
That just one person saying to me,
"You've made my day!" makes my day.

...

I've learned....
That being kind is more important than
being right.

I've learned....
That you should never say "no"
to a gift from a child.

I've learned....
That I can always pray for someone when I don't have
the strength to help him in some other way.

I've learned....
That no matter how serious your life requires you tobe,
everyone needs a friend to act goofy with.

I've learned....
That sometimes all a person needs is a hand to hold
and a heart to understand.

...

I've learned....
That life is like a roll of toilet paper. The closer
it gets to the end, the faster it goes.

I've learned....
That we should be glad God doesn't give us everything
we ask for.

I've learned....
That money doesn't buy class.

I've learned....
That it's those small daily happenings that make life
so spectacular.

I've learned...
That under everyone's hard shell is someone who wants
to be appreciated and loved.

I've learned....
That the Lord didn't do it all in one day. What makes
me think I can?

I've learned....
That to ignore the facts does not change the facts.

...

I've learned....
That love, not time, heals all wounds.

I've learned....
That the easiest way for me to grow as a person is to
surround myself with people smarter than I am.

I've learned....
That everyone you meet deserves to be greeted with a smile.

...

I've learned....
That no one is perfect until you fall in love with
them.

I've learned....
That life is tough, but I'm tougher.

I've learned....
That opportunities are never lost; someone will take
the ones you miss.

I've learned....
That when you harbor bitterness, happiness will dock
elsewhere.

I've learned....
That I wish I could have told my Mom that I love her
one more time before she passed away.

I've learned....
That one should keep his words both soft and tender,
because tomorrow he may have to eat them.
...

I've learned....
That I can't choose how I feel, but I can choose what
I do about it.

...

I've learned....
That everyone wants to live on top of the mountain, but all the happiness and growth occurs while you're climbing it.

I've learned ...
That it is best to give advice in only two
circumstances; when it is requested and when it is a life threatening situation.

I've learned....
That the less time I have to work with, the more
things I get done.

(sent by hanafi annoy, http://ialf_eap_students_alumni.%20yahoogroups.com/) -- with change

... appearance wins over the eyes, but personality wins over the heart...

(Andre, email, June, 2007).

A nice sentence and a good lesson. Heart is the most important thing; appearance can be changed, it will not last forever. Heart will be the source of peace and comfort.

Today will be the best day for my lovely brother (hopefully, amin). You taught me many things and the one that I know: to be there for me, always... So, have a very happy day, dearest brother. I wish you both to be one, giving and sharing a happiness, peaceful and comfortable life with each other until the last day. Be Happy :)

... appearance wins over the eyes, but personality wins over the heart...
(Andre, msg June10th, 2007).

A nice sentence and a good lesson. Heart is the most important thing, appearance can be changed, it will not last forever. Heart will be the source of peace and comfort.

Hopefully... have a very happy day, dearest brother. I wish you both to be one, giving and sharing a happiness, peaceful and comfortable life with each other until the last day. Be Happy :)

Be positive, ..., we can help each other to make it better. .... Let me share my braveness with you. Don't worry and be relaxed. You will be alright!
(Satoshi-san, 20/11/'06, sms)

The Power of Positive Thinking
... teori oleh Dr. Norman Vincent Peale...

A. Percaya diri dan tahu kemampuan sendiri

B. Pikiran yang tenang memberi suatu kekuatan tersendiri

C. Cobalah kekuatan doa
D. Berhentilah mengeluh dan menghakimi orang lain
E. Jangan merasa kalah/ gagal

KEGAGALAN ADALAH SUKSES YANG TERTUNDA. Keep up the good work, my friend! ... (KoKi, sent by Ally C.W.A - Canada)

Every Woman Deserves the Best

A woman will get only what she seeks
Choose your goals carefully
Know what you like and what you do not like
Be critical about what you can do well and what you cannot do well
Choose a career or lifestyle that interests you and work hard to make it a success
but also have fun in what you do
Be honest with people and help them if you can
but don’t depend on anyone to make life easy or happy for you
(only you can do that for yourself)
Be strong and decisive but remain sensitive
Understand who you are and what you want in life
before sharing your life with someone
When you are ready to enter a relationship
make sure that the person is worthy of everything you are physically and mentally
Strive to achieve all that you want
Find happiness in everything you do
Love with your entire being
Love with an uninhibited soul
Make a triumph of every aspect of your life

(KoKi, sent by Fatso, Sydney)

FRIEND

Teman adalah hadiah dari Yang Di Atas buat kita.
Seperti hadiah, ada yang bungkusnya bagus dan ada yang bungkusnya jelek. Yang bungkusnya bagus punya wajah rupawan, atau kepribadian yang menarik. Yang bungkusnya jelek punya wajah biasa saja, atau kepribadian yang biasa saja, atau malah menjengkelkan.

Seperti hadiah, ada yang isinya bagus dan ada yang isinya jelek. Yang isinya bagus punya jiwa yang begitu indah sehingga kita terpukau ketika berbagi rasa dengannya, ketika kita tahan menghabiskan waktu berjam-jam saling bercerita dan menghibur, menangis bersama, dan tertawa bersama.Kita mencintai dia dan dia mencintai kita.

Yang isinya buruk punya jiwa yang terluka. Begitu dalam luka-lukanya sehingga jiwanya tidak mampu lagi mencintai, justru karena ia tidak merasakan cinta dalam hidupnya.

Sayangnya yang kita tangkap darinya seringkali justru sikap penolakan, dendam, kebencian, iri hati, kesombongan, amarah, dll. Kita tidak suka dengan jiwa-jiwa semacam ini dan mencoba menghindar dari mereka.

Kita tidak tahu bahwa itu semua BUKANlah karena mereka pada dasarnya buruk, tetapi ketidakmampuan jiwanya memberikan cinta karena justru ia membutuhkan cinta kita, membutuhkan empati kita, kesabaran dan keberanian kita untuk mendengarkan luka-luka terdalam yang memasung jiwanya.

Bagaimana bisa kita mengharapkan seseorang yang terluka lututnya berlari bersama kita? Bagaimana bisa kita mengajak seseorang yang takut air berenang bersama? Luka di lututnya dan ketakutan terhadap airlah yang mesti disembuhkan, bukan mencaci mereka karena mereka tidak mau berlari atau berenang bersama kita.

Mereka tidak akan bilang bahwa "lutut" mereka luka atau mereka takut air", mereka akan bilang bahwa mereka tidak suka berlari atau mereka akan bilang berenang itu membosankan dll.
It's a defense mechanism. Itulah cara mereka mempertahankan diri.
Mereka tidak akan bilang:

"Aku tidak bisa menari"
"Aku membutuhkan kamu"
"Aku kesepian"
"Aku butuh diterima"
"Aku ingin didengarkan"

Mereka akan bilang:
"Menari itu tidak menarik."
"Tidak ada yang cocok denganku."
"Teman-temanku sudah lulus semua"
"Aku ini buruk, siapa yang bakal tahan denganku.."
"Kisah hidupku membosankan.."

Mereka semua hadiah buat kita, entah bungkusnya bagus atau jelek, entah isinya bagus atau jelek. Dan jangan tertipu oleh kemasan. Hanya ketika kita bertemu jiwa-dengan-jiwa, kita tahu hadiah sesungguhnya yang sudah disiapkanNya buat kita.

Berikanlah makna di dalam kehidupan Anda bukan hanya untuk diri Anda sendiri saja melainkan juga untuk membahagiakan sesama manusia di dalam lingkungan kehidupan Anda.

Berikanlah waktu Anda dgn digabung oleh rasa kasih! Seorang sahabat sama seperti satu permata yg tak ternilai harganya. Seorang kawan bisa membuat kita ceria, membuat kita terhibur.

Mereka meminjamkan kupingnya kepada kita pada saat kita membutuhkannya. Mereka bersedia membuka hati maupun perasaannya untuk berbagi suka dan duka dgn kita pada saat kita membutuhkannya.

Maka dari itu janganlah buang waktu yg Anda miliki, janganlah sia2 akan waktu yg sedemikian berharganya.Bagikanlah sebagian dari waktu yg Anda miliki untuk seorang kawan. Pasti waktu yg Anda berikan tsb akan berbalik kembali seperti juga satu lingkaran walaupun terkadang kita tidak tahu dari mana dan dari siapa datangnya.

^-^ from Sil with love ^-^
(Sylvia Susanti by email March 6th, 2007)

“Allah tidak pernah tidur, Dia tahu apa yang terlihat dan terdengar walau samar.. Allah menilai manusia dari niatan dan apa yang tersembunyi di hatinya.. sementara manusia hanya tau dari apa yang dia lihat dan apa yang dia dengar saja padahal itu sangat rapuh” (Hafizh Kharisma, www.eramuslim.com)

Life truly is huge. It is filled with so many emotions... joy, sadness, silliness, seriousness, love, hate, anger, fear, confidence, confusion, curiousity, clarity, courage, calm, panic, peace, happiness... and so much more. Just take The surprising power of Affirmations... I'M HAPPY.(Life Is Huge/Susan Jeffers--with a little change--ORCHID SHOW, Botanical Garden,Toowong, Feb 10, 2007)

.... The boy was poor--his only worthwhile possession was a watch he'd inherited from his grandfather. Thinking about his sweetheart's lovely hair, he decided to sell the watch in order to buy her a silver barrette.

The girl had no money herself to buy him a present. She went to a shop of the most successful merchant in the town and sold him her hair. With the money, she bought a gold watchband for her lover.

When they met on the day of engagement party, she gave him the wristband for a watch he had sold, and he gave her the barratte for the hair she no longer had.

(By The River Piedra, I Sat and Wept/Paulo Coelho)

EVERY DAY IS A NEW LIFE, ...
(Surfer Paradise, Dec '06 -- Indooroopilly, Jan 2nd, '07: The Queen)